What does it mean to be dating someone
It always seems to come back to this sexual double-standard – where men are culturally constructed as insatiable sexual beings, the “hunter” in a game of sexual conquest, while women are supposed to be (selectively) sexually permissive but not agents of their sexuality (because if they are, then they’re slut-shamed), the “prey”.
The formal definition of being “classy” also doesn’t add much to understanding what class means in the context of dating and attraction.
For instance, being a sharp dresser, clean, and not using profanities are certainly qualities that flatter to a woman, but…
they hardly make her come across as having “class,” if she talks too much and constantly draws attention to her persona.
And because I’m such an honest person, an open book really, I often expect that others will be the same.
I’ve discovered that this is just me projecting my own qualities onto others; they are not always coming from the same place of transparency as I am.